Why people comment thus about widows

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Why people comment thus about widows

Postby Keerthi » Tue Feb 23, 2016 3:54 pm

at her, she is totally over any grief"
"Going about life happily"
"What for her, no longer has to take care of husband"
"She seems actually relieved"
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Re: Why people comment thus about widows

Postby Likitha » Tue Feb 23, 2016 3:56 pm

I have noticed such comments too. And more often than not, it is another woman who says such things. Why they do that I cannot say, but it could be due to the fact that people are brought up hearing how widows are supposed to dress in muted colours, not wear flashy jewellery etc. Even movies portray widows as such. Could it also be that many people do not know how to react to a widow? Especially a widow who still loves her life?

I know one such lady. One look at her and you will never ever say she is a widow. Only way I knew was when she said that she goes to India every year in July for his death anniversary. But that is how you should be. You had a life before you were married. Why stop living after your husband passes? Isn't that similar to committing Sati - but living to witness the rest of your life go by?
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